When people praise us, we tend to light up inside. Their compliments motivate us, and sometimes they even push us to do more of whatever they are praising us for.

On the other hand, when people criticize us, we often do the opposite. We start shrinking, we begin questioning ourselves. Sometimes we even stop doing good things simply because someone had something negative to say about it.

If you ask me, that’s a very exhausting way to live.

I once heard a great man of God say something that has stayed with me for years:

“Treat people’s praises like chewing gum. Once the taste is gone, spit it out. Don’t swallow it.”

Funny, but very true.

The same applies to criticism. Not every compliment should get into your head, and not every criticism deserves a permanent place in your heart.

## SO HOW DO YOU LIVE INDEPENDENTLY OF WHAT PEOPLE THINK?

The answer is simple, though not always easy: become deeply self-aware.

Take time away from the noise. Take a break from the endless notifications, conversations, meetings, and responsibilities. Sit with yourself.

Ask yourself:

- Who am I really?

- What are my values?

- What are my strengths?

- What are my weaknesses?

- What habits am I proud of?

- What habits am I currently working on?

- What annoys me?

- What motivates me?

You should know yourself well enough that when people describe you, you’re not hearing that information for the first time.

## WHY SELF-AWARENESS PROTECTS YOU

One of the benefits of self-awareness is that people’s opinions lose their power to destabilize you.

Why? Because you already know the truth about yourself. If someone points out one of your weaknesses, it doesn’t shock you. You already know it’s there. You’re already working on it.

And if someone starts spreading stories that have absolutely no truth in them, you are not easily shaken because you know they are simply projecting their opinions onto you.

The dangerous path is accepting every opinion that comes your way as truth. That is a recipe for confusion.

The Bible talks about a double-minded person being unstable in all their ways. Why? Because every voice becomes their compass. Every opinion becomes a new direction. Every criticism becomes a crisis. Every compliment becomes an identity.

Imagine living like that. Today someone says you’re amazing, and you’re on top of the world. Tomorrow someone says you’re terrible, and your whole confidence collapses.

Ah! That sounds stressful. 😄

## LET ME USE MYSELF AS AN EXAMPLE

I have already confessed in a previous article that I am a certified talkative. My “chochocho” is plenty. In fact, part of the reason I started writing is because speaking alone was no longer sufficient. 😄

So if a group of people gather somewhere and decide to troll me because I talk too much, honestly, they’ll be wasting their precious data.

Why? Because I already know. This is not breaking news. I have accepted the reality and I’m actively working on improving it. Their comments won’t move me because they are telling me something I already know.

On the flip side, imagine somebody comes to me and says: “Amma is such a quiet person.”

At this point, I don’t know whether to laugh or check if they have mistaken me for someone else. 😄 Because we all know that statement is not true.

And this is exactly my point. Even if everybody lies to you, don’t lie to yourself.

There are compliments you should politely reject internally because you know they don’t reflect reality. And there are criticisms you should completely ignore because they are based on assumptions, projections, or people’s personal expectations of you.

## DON’T LET PEOPLE DEFINE YOU THROUGH THEIR LENS

One of the most dangerous things you can do is allow other people to define you through their lens.

People see life from their own experiences. Sometimes they misunderstand you. Sometimes they misjudge you. Sometimes they simply don’t know enough about your situation.

For example, someone may call you wicked because you refused to lend them money. But what if you genuinely didn’t have the money? Or what if giving them money would have put you into financial difficulty yourself? Does saying “no” automatically make you wicked? Of course not!

Yet some people will gladly hand over money they don’t have, or even borrow money themselves, just to avoid being called names.

My question is: is that really the kind of life you want to live?

## KNOW YOURSELF

Know yourself. Study yourself. Understand yourself. Apart from God, you should know yourself more than anyone else does.

That way, people don’t get to define you with their opinions. They don’t get to use their lens as your mirror.

Accept genuine feedback. Reject unnecessary labels. Work on your weaknesses. Celebrate your strengths.

But above all... don’t lie to yourself.

Because when you know who you are, both praise and criticism lose the power to control your life.

Not everything people say about you is true. But not everything people say about you is false either. The wisdom is knowing the difference, and that starts with knowing yourself.

**What’s a label someone tried to put on you that you had to reject because it just wasn’t true? Tell me in the comments. 👇**

And no, I’m not talking only about romantic relationships. In fact, in my opinion, some friendships are stronger than many love relationships.

Everyone close to me knows that I am a very self-aware person. One thing about me is that although I can be everybody’s friend, I have a small circle of people who are incredibly dear to me. Those are my people. The ones who know the unfiltered version of Amma. The ones who have seen me laugh until I cried, cry until I laughed, and probably listened to my endless “chochocho” more times than they deserved. 😄

So, if you had told me ten years ago that someone from that circle would one day simply walk out of my life, not because they died, not because we had a dramatic fallout, but simply because they chose a different path, I would have called you a false prophet without hesitation.

Yet it happened. Not once, not twice.

## THE HEARTBREAK NO ONE WARNS YOU ABOUT

Let me tell you something. There is a type of heartbreak that comes from losing a friendship that no romantic heartbreak can compare to.

Why?

Because, as we say in the sisterhood code: guys come and go, but sisterhood is forever.

At least that’s what we thought. Sometimes life has other plans.

One thing I have learned is that life happens. People go through seasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you. Sometimes they change. Sometimes their priorities change. Sometimes the version of life they want no longer includes the relationship the way it once did.

And as painful as it may be to admit... that’s okay.

I have also learned that there is no point clinging to someone who no longer values your presence. Relationships were never meant to be prisons. If someone has mentally checked out, holding on tighter rarely fixes anything. It usually just hurts more.

## THE BRIGHTER SIDE

Now let me help you look at the brighter side. 😄

Remember all those matters you were supposed to take to God in prayer but decided to discuss extensively with your friends instead? Well... if those friends have left, God’s arms are still open wide. His ears are still available. And unlike some people, He never gets tired of hearing the latest gist. Hehehehe. 😄

If you truly did your best in the relationship and the person still left, please don’t spend the next ten years beating yourself up. Sometimes people leave simply because their assignment in your life is complete.

A great man of God once said:

“If people choose to leave your life, let them go. Your destiny is not tied to anyone who left.”

That statement used to be difficult for me to accept. Now, I understand it much better.

## WHAT I USED TO BELIEVE ABOUT FRIENDSHIP

For a long time, I thought the best friendships were the ones formed in childhood. The people you grew up with, the people who knew you before life became complicated. The people who knew your parents, your awkward moments, your embarrassing stories.

Those friendships are beautiful, don’t get me wrong. But as I grew older, and hopefully wiser, I realized something. That idea wasn’t necessarily from God.

God lives in eternity. What we call the future is His present. Think about that for a moment.

Sometimes we become so attached to what was that we completely miss what could be. We assume our greatest friendships are behind us. Meanwhile, God may have incredible people waiting for us ahead. People who will understand us better. People who will encourage us differently. People who may walk with us for the rest of our lives.

So yes. Some relationships expire. And that’s okay.

*(Abeg, I’m not talking about marriage o. Before somebody carries this article and starts trouble in their house. 😄 I’m talking about genuine friendships and relationships that simply reached the end of their purpose.)*

## WHY DO WE HOLD ON SO TIGHT?

Sometimes we try so hard to keep people who no longer want to be kept. But isn’t that a little selfish? Why force what someone else no longer wants? Why spend years chasing a friendship that has already left emotionally?

The truth is simple:

Some friendships last a lifetime. Some friendships last a season. The challenge is that in the beginning, they often look exactly the same.

That is why we need discernment. The kind only God can give.

## BRING YOUR HUG

So if you’ve ever lost a friendship that meant the world to you... come here. Bring your hug. 🤗

I’ve been there too. More than once. And while it hurt deeply, I’ve made my peace with it. In fact, I am happier now than I imagined I could be back then.

People may leave. Friends may come and go. Seasons may change. But whatever you do, don’t push away the One Friend who never leaves, God.

Because losing every friend and still having God is survivable. Losing God while trying to hold on to everyone else... now that’s a recipe for disaster.

## CHAPTERS VS. THE ENTIRE BOOK

Not every relationship is meant to last forever. Some people are chapters. Others are the entire book. The wisdom is learning not to confuse the two.

And when a chapter ends, don’t spend your whole life rereading it.

There may be a beautiful new chapter waiting to begin. ❤️

**Have you ever had to let go of a friendship you thought would last forever? How did you make peace with it? Tell me in the comments — I read every single one. 👇**

I was expecting compliments.

You know... things like: “Amma, you’re brilliant.” “Amma, you’re insightful.” “Amma, the world is lucky to have you.” Something along those lines. 😄

Instead, it pointed out an area for development that honestly left me wondering whether I should be impressed or offended.

The tool concluded that one of my biggest challenges was that I tend to wait too long before starting anything. Its reasoning? Because I like to have everything figured out before I make a move, whether in my career, business, or personal projects. According to ChatGPT, this habit has cost me opportunities over the years.

My reaction?

“The impudence of a dying cockroach!” 😂

I did not take it well. Not at all. In fact, I thought I finally understood why people say AI makes mistakes. Surely, ChatGPT had gotten it wrong this time.

But then I did something dangerous. I sat down and reflected. Not for two minutes, not for five minutes. I took an honest look at the last fifteen-plus years of my life and career.

And as painful as it was to admit... no single lie was told.

## THE HABIT I DIDN’T WANT TO SEE

I realized that I had developed a habit of waiting until I felt 100% ready before making any significant move. I wanted certainty. I wanted confidence. I wanted all the answers. I wanted to know exactly how things would turn out before taking the first step.

By the time I finally felt “ready,” one of two things had usually happened:

- Someone else had already executed the idea.

- Someone else had already gotten the opportunity.

Ouch.

That realization humbled me. It became clear that my fear wasn’t failure. My fear was starting before I felt fully prepared. And because of that, I delayed. A lot.

From that moment, I made a decision. I would start taking the step first and learn along the way. Not recklessly, not carelessly, but faithfully.

Because the truth is, many of life’s greatest opportunities don’t come with complete instructions.

## THE PERSON THIS IS FOR

This article is for anyone who may be stuck in the same place I was. The person waiting for the perfect timing, the perfect plan, the perfect amount of money, the perfect level of confidence, the perfect conditions before they begin.

Can I tell you something?

While you’re waiting for perfect, someone else is moving with available.

And many times, available beats perfect. Every single time.

## GIDEON WAS HIDING

Think about Gideon. When the angel appeared to him, he called him:

> “Mighty man of valour.”

Meanwhile, Gideon was hiding. Hiding ooo! 😄 Imagine that.

The angel didn’t call him according to his current state. He called him according to what God saw inside him.

That teaches me something powerful. God does not always wait for us to become what He called us before He calls us. Sometimes He calls us first, and we become it along the journey.

I have also realized that God does not necessarily need a perfect vessel. He needs a willing one. A yielded one. Someone who is willing to say:

> “Lord, I don’t have everything figured out, but I am willing to move.”

Then He does the moulding. He does the shaping. He does the refining.

## SO LET ME ASK YOU

Has God given you an idea? A business? A ministry? A project? A career move? A difficult conversation you need to have? A family reconciliation you’ve been postponing?

Please don’t wait ten years like I did.

Take the step. You may not have all the information today, but you will gather information along the way. You may not have all the confidence today, but confidence grows through action. Not waiting.

## THE REAL RISK

One lesson I’ve learned is this: the risk of waiting too long isn’t just delay. The risk is that you remain standing in a place God has already asked you to leave.

And let’s be honest, God has other children. 😄 Don’t forget that.

If God gives ten people an assignment and nine people are still waiting for things to become perfect, the one person who moves in faith may end up walking into the opportunity first. Not because they were the smartest. Not because they were the most qualified. But because they moved.

I thank God that He gave me another chance. I thank Him for the grace to start writing again. I thank Him for the opportunities that still came my way.

But if I’m being completely honest, I sometimes wish I had started earlier.

## SO LEARN FROM MY STORY

Don’t keep waiting at a place God has already left.

Take the course. Apply for the role. Start the business. Write the article. Have the conversation. Launch the project. Make the move.

Because sometimes the biggest risk is not failure. The biggest risk is waiting so long to begin that you miss the opportunity altogether.

You do not need perfect conditions to start. You simply need enough faith to take the first step. The rest can be learned along the way.

**What’s the one thing you’ve been waiting for “perfect” conditions to start? Tell me in the comments — let’s hold each other accountable. 👇**

This is probably the first article I’ve written using a real-life example that has stayed with me for years.

I think I was about thirteen years old.

At the time, a deaconess from our church came to our house to speak with my dad, who was an elder of the church. She was having challenges in her marriage and desperately needed counsel.

Now, my thirteen-year-old mind couldn’t fully understand everything she was saying, but one thing I remember clearly was how passionately she spoke about her struggles.

My father listened patiently and then began encouraging her from the Scriptures.

He spoke about faith.

He spoke about endurance.

And, of course, he spoke about patience.

He explained how patience is a virtue and how God rewards those who learn to wait.

The deaconess listened attentively as my father preached what was honestly a very powerful sermon on patience.

Then something happened. 😂

THE PLOT TWIST

After the conversation, we offered to drive her home.

Everything was going smoothly until we got to a traffic light. The light turned green, meaning it was our turn to move.

Suddenly, a reckless driver cut across us out of nowhere and then had the audacity to start insulting my father.

Without missing a beat, my dad yelled:

“You are a big foo...”

And right there, in the middle of the sentence, he realized what was coming out of his mouth.

The car became silent.

The deaconess turned slowly toward him and said:

“Ei, Elder!” 🤣🤣🤣

To this day, we still laugh about it.

THE LESSON UNDER THE LAUGHTER

As funny as this story is, it highlights a truth I’ve come to appreciate over the years: patience is much easier to preach than it is to practice.

Many of us give excellent advice when we’re standing outside the situation. We sound wise. We sound spiritual. We sound mature. Then life puts us in the exact same position, and somehow we end up doing worse than the person we advised.

Why?

Because patience is easy when nothing urgent is demanding your attention. Patience is easy when you are not the one suffering. Patience is easy when the problem belongs to someone else.

For example, imagine you got married and within two months, you became pregnant with twins. Everything went smoothly. Healthy pregnancy. Healthy delivery. Healthy babies.

Now imagine sitting beside a friend who has been married for ten years. Ten years. Several miscarriages. Countless tears. Many prayers. And not a single child yet.

Are you really in the best position to lecture that person about patience while carrying twins on your lap?

Let’s be honest. Most of us would struggle to receive that advice.

Yet this is what we often do. Sometimes, instead of praying with people, we preach at them. Instead of comforting them, we correct them. Instead of listening, we start giving solutions.

Sometimes all people need is your presence. Your understanding. Your prayers. Your shoulder. Not another sermon.

WHAT LIFE HAS TAUGHT ME

One lesson life has taught me is this: before giving advice, place yourself in the other person’s shoes.

Ask yourself honestly: “If I were facing exactly what this person is facing, would I gladly take the advice I’m about to give?”

That’s a difficult question. But it’s a necessary one.

We live in a world where people are carrying burdens we know absolutely nothing about. Some are fighting battles they cannot even put into words. Some are smiling publicly while breaking privately. Some are waiting for answers that seem to take forever to come.

So let’s give people grace. Lots of it. Because one day, you may need that same grace yourself.

And finally, here’s a thought I constantly remind myself of:

Until you have personally walked through a situation that required patience...

Until you have applied the lessons you’re teaching...

Until you’ve seen God come through on the other side...

Your advice is mostly theory. Not necessarily wrong. Just untested. And there’s a difference.

Patience is a beautiful message to preach, but it becomes truly powerful when it has been lived.

So before you hand out advice, try offering understanding first. The person may not remember every word you said. But they will never forget how supported they felt when they needed it most.

And please, if you’re ever preaching patience, pray that nobody cuts in front of your car immediately afterward. 😄😂 Because life has a funny way of testing our sermons almost instantly.

Have you ever preached something you struggled to practice yourself? Tell me about it in the comments, I promise not to judge (much) 😏

Have you ever tried to be as respectful, as kind, and as “well-behaved” as possible — to your parents, your boss, your mentor, your spouse, your friends and somehow, it still wasn’t enough?

Instead, you end up being spoken to in ways that are condescending, sometimes even outright disrespectful?

Or let’s bring it closer home. You heard a sermon about loving your neighbour as yourself, and now you keep lending your hard-earned money to people who have never paid you back — but still show up again, smiling, asking for more. And you still give them.

Sigh. In fact, let me sigh the Ghanaian way… “hmmmmmmmm.”

## Let’s Get One Thing Clear

Humility is a powerful virtue. It is something God Himself recommends. In fact, the Bible says:

“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” — James 4:6

So clearly, humility is not optional. It attracts grace.

But here is where I think we’ve gotten it wrong. **Our definition of humility is flawed.**

What many of us call humility today has quietly become a gateway for being taken advantage of, being silenced, and in some cases, damaging our own mental health.

We’ve reduced humility to:

- “Just keep quiet”

- “Don’t talk back”

- “Endure everything, one day God will vindicate you”

And sometimes even — bowing physically, while the heart carries pride or resentment.

Let me say something that may sound uncomfortable: **some of the people who perform the loudest acts of “humility” are actually some of the proudest people.**

Yes… I said it. 😄

## So What Is True Humility?

In my opinion, humility is a matter of the heart. It is:

1. Submitting to God’s will

2. Aligning yourself with His Word

3. Prioritizing what God wants over your own ego

That’s it. Not performance. Not people-pleasing. Not silent suffering.

So you can kneel down every time, greet everyone properly (as you should, o 😄), and *still* not be humble if you are not aligned with God’s will.

And please hear this: **do not let anyone gaslight you into being timid or foolish in the name of humility.**

Let me “touch small example” 😄

Philippians 4:6 tells us not to worry, but to pray about everything. Now be honest… do you find yourself worrying about things you cannot control? Eh? 😄 Then… my dear… small pride dey inside o. I’m not the one saying it o, the Bible said it. Abeg, don’t shoot the messenger. 😂

Do you want another example, or should I continue? 😄

## Real Examples of Humility

### Joseph

When Potiphar’s wife tried to seduce him, Joseph ran. Why? Because he said, *”How can I do this and sin against God?”*

Now imagine — to Potiphar’s wife, Joseph may have looked proud or disrespectful. But to God? That was humility! Joseph chose to please God over pleasing man.

*(Genesis 39)*

### David

David went to deliver food to his brothers. Simple errand. But then he saw Goliath… and started asking questions. His brother got angry and called him arrogant.

David o… arrogant? 😄

Did David say, “Let me go home so I can prove I’m humble”? **NO!** He stayed, confronted Goliath, and delivered Israel. That is humility. He didn’t disrespect his brother, but he didn’t let his brother stop him from obeying God.

*(1 Samuel 17)*

### Jesus

Ah… my Jesus. 👏🏽 So many examples, but let me pick just two.

When they told Him Herod wanted to kill Him, He said: *”Go tell that fox…”* (Luke 13:32)

A whole king!! Jesus called him a fox? 😄 Was that arrogance? **NO!** That was confidence rooted in purpose.

And what about when He drove traders out of the temple? Some people would say, “Ah, Jesus, calm down… be humble.” But He was restoring what was right. That too… was humility.

## What Does This Show Us?

Many of us have been practicing false humility — doing things to gain approval, to avoid conflict, to please people, without checking if it aligns with God’s will.

## So How Do You Become Truly Humble?

Simple.

1. Study God’s Word for yourself.

2. Understand what He wants from you.

3. Let that be your standard — not pressure from people.

And please, hear this clearly: **do not let anyone talk down to you and you keep quiet just because you are “humble.”**

- Set boundaries.

- Learn when to say no — to disrespect, to manipulation, to pressure.

- And also learn when to keep quiet, just like David did at certain moments.

None of the great men we admire in the Bible were pushovers. Not even Moses, the meekest man on earth.

So no, humility is not timidity. And it is definitely not stupidity.

**Stand your ground. Follow God. And let your humility come from alignment… not fear.**

Have you ever been in a situation where someone you deeply respect gives you advice and even though something inside you doesn’t fully agree, you still follow it?

Not because you’re convinced but because it almost feels wrong not to.

Like saying “no” would be disrespectful.

If that’s you, then this is especially for you.

I BELIEVE IN GODLY COUNSEL

Let me start by saying this: I believe in godly counsel.

I’ve been blessed to receive advice from people I truly respect, and some of that advice has changed my life. There are decisions I made because of wise counsel that protected me from what looked like great opportunities but were actually traps. That same counsel led me into spaces, relationships, and experiences I could never have imagined.

Scripture says: “Where there is no guidance, a people fall, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” — Proverbs 11:14

And I have seen that scripture come alive in my own life.

BUT HERE’S THE OTHER SIDE

But here is the other side we don’t always talk about.

There are moments when advice—even well-meaning advice—starts to feel heavy. Almost like pressure. Sometimes even like bondage.

And because it comes from someone we admire, we go along with it. Even when it doesn’t sit well with us.

The danger in that is this: when things don’t go as expected, we may begin to resent the very person who was trying to help us. And without realizing it, we damage relationships that were meant to add value to our lives.

So, what do you do in situations like this?

When you receive advice from someone you feel you “can’t” say no to, but you’re not at peace with it?

FIVE THINGS TO REMEMBER

1. PAUSE AND CHECK YOUR HEART

Be honest with yourself.

Is the advice right, and your discomfort is just your ego reacting? Or is there a genuine lack of alignment?

If putting your ego aside and following the advice will lead to growth, then you already have your answer.

But if there’s a deeper misalignment—take time to understand why.

2. REMEMBER: ADVICE IS STILL SOMEONE’S PERSPECTIVE

Even the best advice is shaped by someone else’s experiences, timing, and journey.

And those may not fully match your current reality.

What worked for them may not necessarily work the same way for you.

Their path is not your path. Their season is not your season.

3. GOD HIMSELF DOES NOT FORCE US

This is something I’ve had to remind myself of.

God, in all His power, does not force His will on us. He guides. He nudges. He corrects. But He allows us to grow into understanding.

So we also shouldn’t put ourselves under pressure as though every human opinion is final.

You have the right to hear counsel and decide.

4. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE

At the end of the day, your life is your responsibility. Not your mentors’. Not your friends’. Not your family or your boss.

You cannot live your life on borrowed decisions and you cannot blame someone else for an outcome you agreed to, even if it was influenced by their advice.

Ownership is powerful. It sets you free.

5. STAY GROUNDED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

This is the anchor. No matter who gives you advice, always align it with God’s Word.

When your relationship with God is strong, you will have a quiet witness in your heart—a sense of peace or caution that guides your decisions.

And that peace is important. More important than appearing agreeable to someone else.

THE BALANCE

So yes, value advice. Seek counsel. Learn from others.

But remember this: It is not compulsory to take every piece of advice you receive.

Good advice can take you far in life. But wisdom is knowing which advice to follow and when.

You are capable. You are wise enough to make decisions for your own life. And you don’t need permission to do that.

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What’s a piece of advice you received that didn’t sit right with you? How did you handle it? Drop your thoughts in the comments—I’d love to hear from you.

I truly hope this blesses you.

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN A SITUATION...

Have you ever been in a situation where you prayed about something deeply…and it felt like God was silent?

Or maybe you’ve seen someone prayerful, kind, faithful, impactful go through something so painful it didn’t make sense?

Sometimes life happens in ways that leave us with more questions than answers.

And yet, many of us were raised to believe something like this: “Do not ask God why. He is sovereign. He does what He wants.”

But in my humble opinion… that is not the full picture.

THE REAL RELATIONSHIP

Our relationship with God is not a slave–master relationship. Jesus came so that we could have a love relationship with our Heavenly Father.

And love, real love makes room for honesty, even when it is uncomfortable.

Let me tell you what happens when we do not ask questions and instead bottle everything up inside.

On the outside, it can look like we have moved on. People may even compliment us, saying things like, “Your faith is so strong.”

But deep down, our hearts may still be hurting, still confused, still questioning.

And over time, something subtle begins to happen: We may continue to pray… but we stop truly believing that God will answer.

Because the heart speaks louder than the lips in the presence of God.

You may be saying words of thanksgiving, but in your heart, you are quietly wondering, “God, why would You allow this?” or even, “God, are You really good?”

Scripture says: “These people come near to me with their mouth and honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.” – Isaiah 29:13

THAT IS WHY...

That is why, for the sake of your heart…Ask God your questions.

You might be wondering: “If I ask God why… how will He answer me?”

From my experience, God answers in different ways.

THROUGH HIS WORD

Sometimes a scripture will come to you bringing clarity, strength, or comfort exactly when you need it.

THROUGH PEOPLE

A friend, a family member… even a simple conversation. Someone may say something “random” that speaks directly to the question in your heart.

THROUGH A SERMON

You may hear a message that feels like it was prepared just for you. That is not coincidence, that is connection.

BUT MY FAVORITE WAY...

But my favorite way God answers is this: Perspective.

Perspective does not always come immediately. Sometimes it takes time.

But when it comes, it stays.

When you ask God specific questions, He has a way of showing you His perspective sometimes through real-life experiences. Because God is omniscient, what we call the future, He already sees.

Think about this:

You prayed about a relationship. Everything seemed perfect. You believed it would work. But it didn’t. And it ended, even though you felt you did everything right.

So you ask God, “Why?”

At first, there may be silence.

But months later, you meet someone who aligns far better with your purpose, your values, your future.

And suddenly… it makes sense. That is perspective.

And this doesn’t just apply to relationships. It applies to your career, your business, your family, your ministry and every area of your life.

SO ASK GOD WHY

So ask God why. He is not threatened by your questions. He is not intimidated by your emotions. And He certainly is not upset with your honesty.

He has answers.

You may not always understand them immediately…but with time, you will.

No matter what you are going through, hold on to these truths:

God loves you more than you love yourself.

God is never wicked.

God desires a relationship with you not a distant, fearful existence.

And in that relationship, there is space for your questions, your honesty, and your healing.

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What questions have you been afraid to ask God? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

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